People always talk about a line we’re not supposed to cross, (but many of us want to).
Albert Einstein said, “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” I try to make a mistake on a daily basis, but I never regret anything. If you learn from your mistakes, then you can surely avoid those situations pegged “regrettable” in the future.
To that end, I sometimes cross the invisible line. Feel like you’re ready to do the same?
I will use a recent story from my life to create an anecdote out of the steps one needs to take when effectively crossing the line.
- Situation with line arises.
My brother and his wife just had a baby girl. The proud father takes a picture of baby girl and sends to family members who have yet to meet her – namely me.
- Say/do exactly what you feel like saying/doing.
This is usually the first thought you have. I sometimes misplace my social filter and it can get me into trouble. I responded with, “You better hope she’s funny.”
- Analyze response.
His delayed response was, “That’s my daughter ur talkin about.”
- If necessary, address any physical injuries.
None, I’m twelve hours south and a safe distance from any slugging or slapping. Plus, I’m no longer shorter than him and have been at the gym a few times – thus, no longer his bitch in physical confrontations.
- Only apologize for discomfort, not your actions.
Don’t apologize unless you’re sincerely sorry for your actions. You can always tell when someone is faking an apology. Two words: Tiger Woods. I said, “She looks exactly like you!” (Notice how I skirted an apology.)
- Move along.
Life is short. I doubled-back and texted: “So, when do I get to meet him?”
Time out. I love my family and I love my niece, but she looks exactly like my brother (see above). Take him, subtract 180 lbs, erase about 20 tattoos, give him a sex change and shave his face. Bam. It’s her.